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How To Deal With Bossy People?



It’s not uncommon to have people who are “pushy” or bossy in our acquaintance. These people come across as being highly insensitive to our personal space, and sensitivities, and seem to impinge upon our independence. You may have a bossy father, mother, brother, sister, spouse, neighbor or a friend, it doesn’t matter what role these people play in your life, their attitude will cause you to feel insulted, humiliated, patronized, resentful or upset. Bossy people are not necessarily “ill intentioned”, but they tend to impose their will and intent upon others, thus impinging on their space and freedom. In this article we seek to give some pointers on how to deal with bossy people in your life.

Tips for Dealing with Bossy People

1.) Stay in Touch with Your Inner Guidance – When you are under the influence of bossy people, they can easily get you to do things that don’t feel “good” to you. It’s not uncommon for bossy people to use threat, anger, argument and emotional pressure, to get you to do their bidding, and if you are not in touch with your own inner guidance, you will fall a victim to their pressure.

No matter how much someone tries to impinge on your freedom, it’s possible for you to stand your ground when you feel confident of your own guidance. When you are not sure of what’s right or wrong from you, it’s easy to be influence by bossy people.

2.) Don’t Live in Fear of a Bossy Person – The weapon which most bossy people wield to get their bidding done is “fear”. They may use their influence to instill fear in you to get you to abide by their conditions. It’s common to see some parents using the fear of punishment to get their children to do their bidding.

If you really want to be free of the influence of a bossy person, you will have to consciously stop being taken in by “fear” created by their force. It’s possible to overcome any fear by staying alert and aware when fearful emotions try to take over. Fear will not have power over you if you don’t fear the fear, but stay absolutely rooted in your awareness of it.

3.) Put Your Freedom Above Everything Else – When you feel victimized by people who are bossy around you, it’s simply a reaction of your being to the loss of freedom that you feel within. Only you have the power to reclaim your freedom, and stay free, no-one else can really help you with this. You will always be free of victimizing influences, if you place your freedom above everything.

When freedom is your priority, everything else somehow just comes back into harmony on its own. Remember that a bossy person cannot really take your freedom away from you unless you give him/her the permission to do. Put freedom above money, relationship and other forms of “pseudo” security that your mind may be seeking. When you feel free within, your external reality will automatically attract benevolent factors into your existence. You will have to deal with bossy people all your life if you are willing to give away your freedom under their influence.

4.) Be Willing to Speak up Your Stand – It’s necessary to make your stand clear, and speak up for yourself, when someone is trying to boss around with you. The only way to deal with bossy people, who try to order you around, is to let them know that you will not stand such behavior.

Don’t get reactive or emotional, but speak from a space of calm presence. Don’t try to put the other person down, but just make your stand clear, letting them know what you prefer and what your requirements are. Don’t be intimidated by their reaction, just stay calm and composed, rooted in your stand.

5.) Remember there is Nothing that You Need to do – Life is not a “do or die” reality. There is nothing that you “have” to or “need” to do, there are no limitations except the ones that you impose upon yourself. Life is always free and it does not impose any restrictions on your freedom.

The only restriction that lies in your life comes from your own mind. The reason you give in to bossy people is because you feel that you “have” to do their bidding in order to have a secure life. In truth there is no security in bondage, and though freedom may seem like an uncertain, and may be insecure, arena to the mind, the opposite is actually the case. When you choose freedom over security, it turns out that security emerges from this choice, quite automatically.

Concluding Words

In order to deal with bossy people you need to overcome your fear and insecurity, and find security in your inner guidance. The mind is fearful but your heart always knows the right path to take. Listen to your heart and train your mind to stand up for what your heart feels is true. True freedom arises when you always make the choice to follow your heart over the fears created by the mind.

Promotion for Postmaster Grade II officials, clarification on some technical points


DEAR POSTMASTER - A WORD WITH YOU


LEARN TO LEAD NOT TO  BULLY :

 


PHYSIOLOGY CORNER:

 

 

 

Many times people don’t even realize that their boss is bullying them. Instead, they falsely believe that their boss is just tough or pushes his workers to get results. But workplace bullying can have  significant consequences and can impact your health and overall wellbeing. Therefore, it’s important to be able to distinguish between a tough boss and a bullying boss. Here are some signs that your boss is a bully. Your boss is a bully if he:

Verbally abuses you. For instance, a bullying boss humiliates you in front of others. He also might shout, swear or yell at you on a consistent basis or make offensive jokes at your expense. Verbally abusive bosses also make snide remarks or offer unfair criticism about you or your work.

Intimidates you on a regular basis. Intimidating behavior might include threatening to fire you as a way to maintain power and control. It also can include threatening gestures or threats to harm you physically.

Questions your adequacy and your commitment. Bosses question your adequacy by belittling your opinions and ideas. This may be done in private or in front of others. They also may blame you for problems at work while boasting that their skills are responsible for good outcomes. And they may question your commitment to the job unless you work long hours and sacrifice personal time.

Intrudes on your privacy. Sometimes bosses will spy on you or even stalk you. They also may listen in on your private conversations, open your mail and go so far as to tamper with your personal belongings or your work equipment.

Undermines your work. Bosses who bully set unrealistic deadlines that are bound to cause failure. They also change project guidelines on a regular basis causing extra work and increasing the chance for failure. They also withhold necessary information in order to cause failure and sabotage your success by making your work late or incomplete. Refusing to sign off on projects or refusing to provide needed feedback are other tactics used to undermine work.

Impedes your success. Bullies don’t want to see you succeed because they will lose control over you. As a result, they may punish you for mistakes that are not yours or bring up past mistakes in order to shift blame during a discussion. They also may make it impossible for you to apply for a promotion, a transfer or additional training. They may even over-control or micromanage your work or projects.

Spreads rumors about you. Bullies often go to great lengths to make others look bad. As a result, they may gossip with others about your work, your appearance, your health or your personal life.

Isolates you at work. Bullying bosses might exclude you socially. They leave you off party lists and don't include you in company outings, sporting events or after-hours meetings. They also may schedule meetings when they know you have a conflict in your schedule. And they may go so far as refusing to allow you to attend work meetings or work lunches.

If you are experiencing any of these abuses, it’s important to recognize that this is workplace bullying and it’s not a normal part of any workplace environment. Repetitive verbal abuse, exploitation, micromanagement and other activities that repeatedly demean you or are discourteous will eventually take a toll on you.

Possible Signs of a Bully

Exhibiting poor impulse control. Bullies with poor impulse control are quick-tempered, tend to yell and use profanity. They also are prone to using insults and calling names.

Attempting to monitor, control or isolate other workers. Workplace bullies may hold surprise meetings as a means to humiliate another person. They also may make surprise appearances in an employee’s work area in an attempt to catch them doing something they shouldn’t be doing. And, they conveniently leave others out of important meetings or e-mails.

Sabotaging the work of others. Bullies tend to discount the accomplishments of others and take credit for things they didn’t do. They also may withhold valuable information from other employees in an effort to sabotage their work performance. And they threaten subordinates with job loss, set unreasonable schedules, make unrealistic work demands and squash attempts at promotion.

Appearing self-centered or inconsiderate. Bullies are the ones who dominate meetings with interruptions, sarcasm and insults. They also consistently question and criticize other people’s ideas. Additionally, bullies use non-verbal cues to control other employees such as coughing, rolling their eyes, squeaking their chair, tapping a pencil on the table, tapping their foot impatiently and so on.

Talking behind the backs of co-workers. Watch out for people who seem to be “in-the-know” about other people. Some of what they say may be fabricated rumors and gossip. Bullies tend to make snide remarks about other people, make fun of people and criticize others.

 

Learning to recognize bullying will help you learn not to blame yourself for someone else’s behavior. Additionally, you will be less likely to take responsibility for something that isn’t your fault. Remember, bullying doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. Instead, bullying is a choice that is made by the bully.

Additionally, remember that workplace bullying is a widespread issue that affects millions of prople. As a result, keep the situation in perspective and don’t let it affect your self-esteem or health. Find outside support for what you are experiencing and look for options for your situation whether it is reporting your boss, filing a complaint or getting outside counseling.

MINUTES OF II ND CIRCLE CONFERENCE OF ALL INDIA ASSOCATION OF POSTMASTER CADRE MAHARASHTRA CIRCLE HELD AT KOLHAPUR ON 10TH AUGUST 2013


MINUTES OF II ND CIRCLE CONFERENCE OF ALL INDIA ASSOCATION OF POSTMASTER CADRE MAHARASHTRA CIRCLE HELD AT KOLHAPUR ON 10TH AUGUST 2013.

II nd Circle Conference of All India Association of Postmaster Cadre, Maharashtra Circle was held at Kolhapur on 10th August 2013 at 10.00 a.m. at SHREE MAHALAKSHMI CONFERENCE AND MULTI PURPOSE HALL 3 RD FLOOR, KAWALA NAKA, BESIDE RAJ GAURAV MANGAL KARYALAY, KOLHAPUR

Conference started with usual procedure followed by introduction of the Postmasters.

 Regional coordinators read their report. 

The gist of the report of them and the resolution passed over there are as follows:

Ø Postmaster Cadre opted/passed officials are demoralized because of the step motherly treatment by the Department in position, power and financially.

 

Ø The young postmasters are not appreciated by the local administration instead they are given more burden, loaded from the other general line supervisors on the ground of their age and non capability by keeping shortage of staff in the office where the postmaster cadre official is posted.

 

 

Ø Poor infrastructure, Machinery, staff shortage but higher responsibility than the subordinates who are getting more remuneration and consideration.

 

Ø There is no provision in the 6th pay commission report for the Postmaster Cadre which is shouldering highest responsibility in the department but adjusted with the general line supervisory pay scale by saying that both are one and same line with same powers and responsibility but practically that was not correct.

 

 

Ø Stress on getting authorization from the Directorate for the formatted Postmaster association at central level by keeping dead line for the same to attain carrier progression in this chosen carrier.

 

Ø Getting permission for bi/four monthly meeting with PMG/CPMG for to settle the grievances arises while working with the subordinates and dealing with the local administration as suggested by the Directorate during the meeting with the CHQ members on 17 thApril 2013.

Ø Formation of regional /Circle level ad hoc committee and Circle ad hoc office bearers to represent and discuss the issues with the higher authorities.

 

Ø Strengthen the activities of the association with Unity, all the Postmaster Cadre officials should  stop the subscription to the PIII federated Unions and start the subscription to the Postmaster association under receipt.

 

 

Ø Be prepared for the membership verification by maintaining neutral state to enable to get the authorization from the directorate.

 

Ø To bring the oral assurance given by the Directorate on papers the Postmaster Cadre officials should be untied and give the strength to the CHQ members.

 

 

Ø  Monthly subscription from the members are fixed Rs.50/- that will be collected by the ad hoc regional body treasurers and quota will be send on the proportion as given in the draft constitution under receipt. The books of accounts should be maintained free and fair manner for the audit and for verification as and when called for.

Ø Circle ad hoc committee has been constructed along with the Mumbai regional ad hoc committee.

 

Ø The resolution passed in the conference along with the list of office bearers will be submitted to the Chief Postmaster General very soon.

 

 

Ø Conference concluded with vote of thanks and National Anthem

Here it is to mention about the hospitality extended by the Kolhapur young Postmasters with their warm reception and the delicious food arrangement.

Next circle conference place and venue will be fixed shortly.

Before that all India conference on demand by the all other circle coordinators will be announced soon by the General Secretary in consultation with the Delhi/Rajasthan circle.

JAI HIND…..JAI MAHARASHTRA!!!!!!!!

 

 

BY POSTMASTER MAHARASHTRA

SOME PHOTOES SHOOTED AT 2 ND CIRCLE CONFERENCE AT KOLHAPUR ON 10TH AUGUST 2013











HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY TO ALL OF YOU FROM POSTMASTER MAHARASHTRA

HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY TO ALL OF YOU FROM POSTMASTER MAHARASHTRA
"Where the mind is without fear
and the head is held high;
Where knowledge is free;
Where the world has not been
broken up into fragments by
narrow domestic walls;
Where words come out from
the depth of truth;
Where tireless striving stretches
its arms towards perfection;
Where the clear stream of reason
has not lost its way into the dreary
desert sand of dead habit;
Where the mind is lead forward by thee
into ever-widening thought and action-
Into that heaven of freedom, my Father,
let my country awake."

- by Rabindranath Tagore
(from Geetanjali)
 

II nd CIRCLE CONFERENCE OF MAHARASHTRA CIRCLE POSTMASTER CADRE ASSOCIATION

II nd CIRCLE CONFERENCE OF MAHARASHTRA CIRCLE POSTMASTER CADRE ASSOCIATION
ALL INDIA ASSOCIATION OF POSTMASTER CADRE (PROPOSED)







DEAR POSTMASTER,


II nd Circle conference is to be held at Kolhapur on 10th August 2013.

All Regional coordinators of Aurangabad, Pune, Nagpur,Goa and Mumbai region please inform all Postmaster cadre officials to attend II Circle conference to be held at Kolhapur.

It is needless to say that this is the time for raising funds to make our place strong at Regional, Circle and all India level for the purpose of getting approval from the Directorate and also to knock the door of Justice if any injustice will be caused to the cadre.


VENUE :SHREE MAHALAKSHMI CONFERENCE AND MULTI PURPOSE HALL 3 RD FLOOR, KAWALA NAKA, BESIDE RAJ GAURAV MANGAL KARYALAY,  KOLHAPUR

Date & time: 10.08.2013 at 10.00 a.m.
Through the meeting we should prepare ourselves in the following points :

1.Making Database of all the Postmaster Masters Grade I & II

2.Raising funds through donations under receipts

3.Forming regional/circle level adhoc body

4.To prepare themselves for to ready for a deep struggle to form an all India Association.

5.Also to discuss the local issues to be taken up with the Regional Office.

6. To discuss the issues discussed at Directorate and the assurance
given over there.

7. Any other issues with the permission of chair.